Wholehearted Living – The Key To Happiness
Barring extreme exceptions, most of us deeply and desperately want to be happy. We want to live our best life possible. But what not everyone knows or thinks to consider is that a non-negotiable prerequisite to being happy is to live wholeheartedly. And in order to live wholeheartedly its necessary to not only embrace everything that we like or even love about ourselves, but also our imperfections.
This is of course where things can get tricky. It’s no fun embracing whatever it is that we consider or perceive to be “unlovable” about ourselves; with the operative concept here being “perceive to be”. Wholehearted living is all about working not only on that which we wish to cultivate in ourselves but also on the things we need to let go. And whilst living wholeheartedly, authentically and brutally vulnerable lives is everything but easy sailing, the reward is so much bigger than the effort required.
Important To Live On Purpose
Storyteller-researcher and sociology expert Dr. Brene Brown knows all about the value of vulnerability and living a life that is “on purpose”, i.e. of the wholehearted variety. In her book, “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are”, she refers to a set of guideposts for wholehearted living.
Brown goes on to list a set of 10 guideposts and also explains exactly how to cultivate and implement these. And whilst some of the guideposts on the list may at face value appear to be common logic, some others may come as a surprise. All in all, however, they’re each and every one of them absolutely valuable beyond measure to anyone desiring happiness and a life truly lived.
Guideposts For Truly Living
And so, without further ado, here follow Dr. Brene Brown’s 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted living:
- Cultivating Authenticity: Letting go of what people think.
- Cultivating Self-Compassion: Letting go of perfectionism.
- Cultivating a Resilient Spirit: Letting go of numbing and powerlessness.
- Cultivating Gratitude and Joy: Letting go of scarcity and of fear of the dark.
- Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith: Letting go of the need for certainty.
- Cultivating Creativity: Letting go of comparison.
- Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.
- Cultivating Calm and Still: Letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle.
- Cultivating Meaningful Work: Letting go of self-doubt and “supposed to”.
- Cultivating Laughter, Song and Dance: Letting go of being cool and “always in control”.